City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Lydia Kathryn Wheeler

Raleigh, North Carolina

Age 67.
Died 11/20/2021.

Lydia Kathryn Wheeler
In a poem penned by Lydia 40 years ago, she wrote that “my soul won’t rest until it tries to find its next perfect surprise.” Lydia’s soul met that perfect surprise on November 20 and she left this life to eternally rest with parents Norman & Kay in their celestial home.
Born in 1954, Lydia Kathryn Wheeler became the oldest daughter of Norman & Kay Wheeler graduating Dunn High School as Valedictorian in 1972 then enrolling at UNC-Greensboro to become a Phi Beta Kappa English graduate in 1976.
A writer by avocation, Lydia was employed by Wake County Schools as an English teacher serving as English Department Chair, yearbook advisor, and newsletter editor. Also writing short stories and plays, she amused herself and others as a piano player and was for a time the keyboardist for Grand Prix, a Raleigh dance band.
As Lydia’s disabilities began to overwhelm her abilities, she worked as a proofreader and transcriber for a court reporting service and provided Computer Assisted Note-taking for Deaf & Hard of Hearing supporting her contention in another poem that “no dream is impossible if it is worthwhile.”
Lydia was an animal lover who loved cats most of all. Pretty Kitty, Shrambles, Leo, Redford, and the list goes on!
Lydia is survived by her two sisters, Jean Wheeler Allman and Leigh Wheeler Baxley, along with brothers-in-law Steven Allman & Rick Baxley. She was proud of her two nieces Amanda Allman Harwell and Kathryn Allman Farley and their husbands Rhys Harwell and James Farley. She was equally proud of her two nephews Joshua Barnes and Ryan Baxley, and she reveled in being a Great Aunt to Silas Barnes & Willow Harwell.
It is Lydia’s wish that memorial tributes be made to Monty’s Home,, or Humane Society of the United States, with Memorial service to be arranged at future date.
On November 20, Lydia gently passed from this world surrounded by love as her sisters Leigh and Jean held her hands and as “Day by Day” by Robin Lamont played “oh dear Lord, …I pray, to see thee more clearly” and today, Lydia is at peace in that most “perfect surprise.”

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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.

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Our Promise

Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.

Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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