City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Shirlee Lakemaker Dale

Raleigh, North Carolina

Age 85.
Died 12/17/2021.

Shirlee Lakemaker Dale
Shirlee Lakemaker “Sue” Dale, 85, of Raleigh, passed away in her home after a battle with colon cancer. The family is deeply appreciative of the loving care provided by Transitions Hospice Care. Funeral arrangements to be announced by the family.

Shirlee was born April 11, 1936 in Brown County, South Dakota to the late Martin E. Lakemaker and Lillian Agatha Pigors Lakemaker. She spent most of her childhood in Groton, SD, learning the values of hard work, the Christian faith, and the true meaning of family. Shirlee graduated from Groton High School in 1954. She went on to attend the University of South Dakota, earning a degree in English Education. She was a member of Alpha Phi sorority. In December 1957, she wed Louis Lincoln “Larry” Fleeger, II, after meeting in college. Sue and Larry had two children together. They moved to Denver, CO in 1961. In Denver, she began her career in banking.

Shirlee later married Army LT James Washington Dale, III. They had two children together, and lived a typical Army life, across the country and world. The family lived in Colorado, Oklahoma, Washington, South Korea, Green Bay, WI, and Raleigh, NC. In South Korea, Sue had the opportunity to teach English to Korean diplomats. Despite switching to a career in banking, she was always an English teacher at heart. After moving to Raleigh in the early 70s, Sue began a career at United Carolina Bank (UCB). She worked for UCB for 30 years (later BB&T) as a Relationship Banker. After retiring in the early 2000s, she enjoyed many trips with her brother, sister-in-law, and best friends from South Dakota. Sue loved travelling, spending time with family, crossword puzzles, Jeopardy, the Green Bay Packers, the Midwest, and her two Cocker Spaniels. Sue was most passionate about keeping her family in church and making sure they received the same faith she did. She was a long time member of St. Philip Lutheran Church of Raleigh.

Sue loved her family fiercely, loved her God more, and was truly a light to everyone she met. She was the epitome of a true Midwesterner. She showed love and care to everybody around her without judgement.

She was preceded in death by her parents, Martin and Lillian Lakemaker. She is survived by her brother Gerald Lakemaker (Linda) of Palm Coast, FL; four children, Jerald James Fleeger (Susan) of Lewisville, TX, Janette Fleeger Baethke (Clayton) of Creedmoor, NC, Jay Michael Dale (Monica) of Raleigh, NC, and James Washington Dale, IV of Raleigh, NC; four grandchildren, James Robert “Jamey” Benson, IV (Brie) of Austin TX, Christopher Fleeger (Rebecca) of Lewisville, TX, Joshua Michael McGee (Vicky) of Knoxville, TN, and Ian Michael Dale, of Raleigh, NC; one great granddaughter Savannah Fleeger of Lewisville, TX; and two nieces whom she loved like daughters, Amberly Lakemaker Gastwirth (Davin) and Ashley Lakemaker DeMaio (Frank).

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to Transitions Hospice Care.

For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.

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Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

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Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

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Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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