City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Joyce Haywood

Durham, North Carolina

Age 95.
Died 02/22/2023.

Joyce Haywood
In loving memory of our mother, Joyce Haywood, 95, who passed peacefully in her sleep surrounded by family at her home on February 22,2023. She was born in York, Pennsylvania to the late Lewis Gustavus Decorcey and Rebecca Arter Decourcey. She attended Allegheny College prior to joining the U.S. Marine Corps in 1954 where she married the rebel and fellow marine, Herbert E. Haywood, she once had to chase from the dance hall when he decided to make a grand entrance by riding his motorcycle onto the floor. They went on to enjoy 52 loving years together. She was a strong woman who faced every challenge in her life with courage and dignity. Through the years she remained a faithful woman who loved the lord, her family, fur babies and church. When she returned to North Carolina in 2009, she began attending Ridgecrest Baptist Church, and the Joy Club who quickly became family.

Growing up she discovered her passion for music, she played the piano, organ, violin and even the accordion. She enjoyed playing for church service , singing in the choir and could tear up a dance floor. She enjoyed crocheting and a good laugh. Music became a source of comfort especially during her later years as she lost her sight in 2013 and mobility. At any moment you would hear her say “Jeff, let’s take a trip” and they would break out into their favorite song “ The Ole Gospel Ship”.

Joyce was survived by her son Michael Haywood, her daughter Kimberly Shoe and husband Jeff; grandchildren, Brandon Shoe and wife Betzy, Justin Shoe and wife Jenny, Shawna Butler and husband Bobby, Joe Haywood; great grandchildren, Ashton Shoe, Rico Haywood and Jaxon Butler(Louise), Drako Haywood(Jessica), Chloe, Gaige, and Lucas Haywood(Candice) ; great great grandchildren Jazelle Haywood, and Oakley Mae Haywood.

She was preceded in death by her parents, her siblings, Ruth, Robert and Lewis Decourcey. Her husband, and son Lee Haywood.

We know that god is pleased to have one of his kind and generous angels back in his arms where she belongs. She will be sorely missed by those who love her. A graveside service will be held at 9:00am on Wednesday, March 1st at Dayton National Cemetery in Dayton, Ohio.

For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.

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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.

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Our Promise

Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.

Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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