City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Bertha Mae “ Bert” Lassiter

Raleigh, North Carolina

Age 104.
Died 10/14/2023.

Bertha Mae “ Bert” Lassiter
Bertha Mae Ammons Lassiter, also known as “Bert,” peacefully passed away on October 14, 2023, at the age of 104 in Cary, NC. She was born on September 26, 1919, in Rowland, NC, to her loving parents Asa and Blennie Ammons. Bert was preceded in death by her father, mother, sister Evelyn Jackson, brother Leon Ammons, former husband Ralph B. Lassiter, and her daughter Carol Lemons.

Bert will be fondly remembered as a loving mother, fun-loving friend, and avid bridge player. Education was extremely important to Bert. She graduated from UNC-G (formerly “Women’s College”), and proudly served as a teacher, library assistant and teacher’s aide in NC. She was a proud and enthusiastic supporter of East Montgomery High School football, even after her three children had graduated from there. She never missed a home game for many years and was recognized by the school for attending 100 consecutive home games.

In her free time, Bert enjoyed indulging in her hobbies, which included reading, playing cards (especially bridge), doing sudoku, and dancing. She was involved with her community of Candor, NC, and her church. She truly loved the beach, spending many summers at the family house at Long Beach, and in later years, going on family beach trips with a houseful of 14-17 folks. The most important thing to Bert was family.

Bert was a faithful member of Candor United Methodist Church, where she found fellowship and support. She was an active member of the church choir and especially loved singing in the church’s Christmas cantata for many years. Her faith played an important role in her life, providing her with strength and guidance.

Bert is survived by her children, Susan Lassiter Lampley and Ralph B. Lassiter, Jr (Ann), as well as her son-in law Richard Lemons, her grandchildren Stephen Lemons (Megumi), Richard Lemons, Jr. (Leigh Ann), Matthew Lemons, Gentry Lassiter (Rebecca), Leigh Lampley Martin (Kane), Krista Lassiter Carr and Will Lampley. She is also survived by her great-grandchildren Vivian and Joshua Lemons, Emma and Rose Lassiter, and Lily Martin. We especially appreciate the love and care Bert received from Joy Reid, Adelaide Young, the staff at Brookdale Senior Living, Rex Hospital, Glenaire Nursing Care, and Transitions LifeCare.

A celebration of Bert’s life will be held on November 18 at 2:00 pm at St. Mark’s United Methodist Church, 4801 Six Forks Road, Raleigh, NC, followed by a reception at the church. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to St. Mark’s United Methodist Church of Raleigh or Transitions LifeCare (Hospice) at

Bert’s legacy will live on through the lives she touched, the knowledge and stories she shared, and the love she gave. She will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing her.

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Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

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Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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