City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Obituary
Robert Patrick Mayette

Durham, North Carolina

Age 83.
Died 12/29/2024.

Robert Patrick Mayette
DURHAM, NC – Robert (Bob) Patrick Mayette passed away peacefully on Sunday, December 29, 2024 at the age of 83. Bob was born in Stamford, Connecticut on October 20, 1941 to Francis and Olga Mayette.

He graduated from Stamford High School in 1959 where he served as President of both his Junior and Senior classes and earned the nickname, Jocko. After high school, Bob began working at Clairol Inc, as a Senior Programmer, where he met his soulmate, Barbara Ackerman, who became his wife of 56 years. He also worked for Emery Air Freight as a Senior Staff Programmer, Volt Technical Services as a Senior Consultant, and Lone Star Industries of Greenwich, CT.

In 1979, he relocated his family to Virginia Beach where he continued to work for Lone Star Industries and then Home Quarters as MIS Operation Manager. In 1996, Bob and Barbara moved to the Raleigh, NC area where he started his company, Global Network Solutions, and then he worked for and retired in 2014 from Premiere Communications & Consulting as a Senior Project Manager.

Bob loved his country and served for six years, receiving an Honorable Discharge from the Army National Guard of Connecticut. He also loved a good celebration and could always be found on the dance floor, enjoying a glass of Johnnie Walker on the rocks with a twist, or listening to his idol, Frank Sinatra. He was an avid sports fan, but especially enjoyed watching his beloved New York Jets, Notre Dame Fighting Irish, and attending and watching many golf majors with his son.

While he served many roles as husband, father, co-worker, and friend, his favorite role was being Popeye to his three grandsons, Taylor, Devin and Nash.

He is preceded in death by his parents, Francis and Olga Mayette, and his brother, Frank Mayette. He is survived by his wife, Barbara Ackerman Mayette; his son, Marc Mayette (Dana); his daughter, Danielle Woods (Donald); sister-in-law, Helga Mayette of Florida; grandchildren, Taylor Woods, Devin Woods, Nash Mayette; nieces, Jennifer Groeger (Mark) of Connecticut, and Michelle Grzebieniowski (Michael) of Massachusetts; and special young man and family friend, James Patrick Tully of Alaska.

The family would like to express their sincerest thanks to the staff at Transitions LifeCare of Raleigh for their care and compassion during this difficult time. In lieu of flowers, the family asks you honor Bob’s memory by donating to Transitions LifeCare of Raleigh, https://www.transitionslifecare.org/donate/ or Tunnels to Tower Foundation, https://t2t.org/

A celebration of life will be announced at a later date. City of Oaks Cremation is assisting the family with cremation services.

For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.


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Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.


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Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.


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Direct Cremation

$1196.75

Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

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Cremation with Solidified Remains

$2875.66

We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

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Cremation with Visitation

$1917.84

City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

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Immediate Burial

$2497.50

An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

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Traditional Funeral

$6081.48

We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

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Green Burial

$3033.75

This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.

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Aquamation

$2640.59

As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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