City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Mary Ellen Bailey

Franklinton, North Carolina

Age 64.
Died 03/01/2024.

Mary Ellen Bailey
Mary Ellen Foster Bailey, 64 of Franklinton, North Carolina passed away on March 1, 2024. Mary Ellen was born to Gordon and Donna Bee Foster in Bowling Green, Kentucky on September 30, 1959. After a divorce, Donna married Wayne (Papa) Fluhr, a career Army aviator. Being an “army brat” and moving several times during childhood allowed her to develop the ability to adapt to new surroundings. This served her well when she was chosen to be drum major of her high school band, which also pushed her to begin leaving behind some ‘wallflower’ tendencies.

She accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior in the 7th grade, growing in her faith. One of Mary Ellen’s greatest loves was teaching Bible Study. Her promise to God was to be ready to teach whenever asked. The Lord gave her many opportunities to do so. She taught youth, young couples, ladies, and senior adult ladies’ groups.

Upon earning a bachelor’s degree in Rehabilitation Services from Murray State University and a master’s degree in Counseling from Arkansas State University, she spent her career in health and human services, helping people with emotional and physical disabilities become more independent. This led her to spend the majority of her career at Resource Management Services in Lake Charles, Louisiana serving as a mental health professional and compliance officer. While living in Louisiana, she was honored to serve as Treasurer and then President of the Lake Charles Commission on Disability.

Mary Ellen and James Bailey met at 30,000 feet in an American Airlines plane between Dallas and El Paso,Texas, exactly where God wanted them to meet. After a brief courtship, they married on September 1, 1984. James spent over 30 years in ministry and Mary Ellen was at his side the entire time, encouraging and supporting him. From this union came two wonderful sons, Justin Allen and Nathan James Bailey.

After 30 years in Louisiana, they moved to North Carolina in 2019 to be near two grandchildren. Two quickly became four and were the light of Mary Ellen’s life. She had a ready smile anytime anyone asked about Kuyper, Emerson, Ambrose, or Joyce.

Survivors include husband James Alexander Bailey, son Justin Allen and wife Jennifer, son Nathan James and fiancé Rachel Williams, Stepfather Wayne Fluhr (Pam), sister Elizabeth Foster, brothers Stephen Fluhr (Denise) and Bryan Foster (Missy), brother-in-law Steven Paul, and stepbrother Kenny Gilliam. She was predeceased by mother Donna Bee Fluhr, father Gordon Foster, stepmother JoAnn Foster, sister Sarah Paul, and step-brother Mitch Gilliam.

One of Mary Ellen’s favorite scripture passages helped guide her life, II Thessalonians 5:16-18, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

In lieu of flowers, please send donations to Richland Creek Community Church designated to the missions offering.

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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.

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Our Promise

Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.

Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremations