City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Joan Gormly Decker

Cary, North Carolina

Age 89.
Died 03/13/2024.

Joan Gormly Decker
Our beloved mother, Joan Gormly Decker, 89, passed away peacefully on March 13, 2024, after a long goodbye from Alzheimer’s while at her Memory Care home, Phoenix Assisted Living in Cary, North Carolina. She was born on September 29, 1934, in Newark, NJ, the oldest child of the late John and Margaret Gormly.

Pastor Tracy Bell will preside over a private Celebration of Life on Sunday, April 7, 2024, in Raleigh, North Carolina. Tex Culton will preside over a private Celebration of Life on July 7, 2024, in Frenchtown, New Jersey.

Joan is survived by her four daughters, Shari Lee O’Neill, Donna Decker McCollum, Kelly Decker Pich, and Traci Decker Todd; four sons-in-law, Michael O’Neill, Thomas McCollum, William Pich, and Brandon Todd; five grandchildren, Anthony Johnson Jr., Edwin Charles Johnson, Christina Dunn, Logan Decker Todd, and Cameron Daniel Todd; and four great-grandchildren, Justin Watson, Riley Johnson, Oliver Dunn, and Elliott Dunn and two great-great-grandchildren Evander Watson and Cove Watson.

She graduated from Frenchtown High School in 1952 as an accomplished student-athlete and lettered in basketball, softball, and hockey. Her high school yearbook prophecy indicated she would be in the WNBL and marry her high school steady. One of those predictions came true, and in 1953, she married the love of her life, the late Edwin “Ed” Charles Decker, and they lived in Barbertown and then Frenchtown, New Jersey. She worked for the Hunterdon County National Bank before starting their family in 1959. After that, she and Ed moved to Sarasota, Florida, where she worked in Human Resources at Sarasota Memorial Hospital. In 1979, they returned to Frenchtown, New Jersey, where she had a successful career in Human Resources and retired from Ortho Pharmaceutical in 1994. The final move would be to Raleigh, North Carolina, in 1994, where in 1995, she and Ed started their own business, “Spice Up Your Life.” For 23 years, she was known as the “Spice Lady” and left her footprint on many hearts and kitchens nationwide.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you consider helping us fight this devastating disease of Alzheimer's by donating to the “AFA” Alzheimer's Foundation of America

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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.

Simply having to reach out to a funeral home can feel overwhelming. Our goal is to simplify the entire funeral home experience and make the process as easy as possible. We hope to eliminate any unnecessary surprises by publishing our total cost and the services we provide directly on our website. All of our obituaries are provided free of charge as a way to help families celebrate and commemorate the lives of their loved ones.

Our Promise

Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.

Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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