City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Joe Murray

Cary, North Carolina

Age 72.
Died 04/10/2023.

Joe Murray
Joseph Edward Murray, III passed away on April 10th at his son’s home in Cary, NC. He was surrounded by loved ones and went peacefully after several years of battling cancer. Joe was born in Hartford, Connecticut and grew up in Newington with his two older brothers Paul and Mike and two sisters Ginny and Claudia. His parents were teachers, and they enjoyed many summers at Cape Cod.
Joe went to the University of Connecticut in Storrs and met the love of his life, Phyllis Morgan, who he married in February 1970. Joe and Phyllis quickly started a family with their first son, Bruce, born in December. Joe continued to get his degree from Central Connecticut State and launched his career in accounting and finance while Phyllis supported them by working several jobs. Joe and Phyllis had two more children while they continued to live in CT, another son, Mike, and daughter, Stacey. Soon after Stacey was born the family moved down to Germantown, TN to escape the cold weather. A few years later, the family moved to the small town of Paris, TN where Joe’s career thrived and the whole family got to enjoy many fun outings on Kentucky Lake where Joe was able to fulfill his love of water and boating. Once the kids were grown, Joe and Phyllis built a beautiful home on Kentucky Lake to enjoy the water even more. Joe was also the mastermind behind many fun family vacations touring many great national parks including the Grand Canyon, Yosemite, Mount Rushmore, the Redwood Forest, and Yellowstone.
Joe and Phyllis moved to London, KY to accommodate Joe’s career, and were able to enjoy a houseboat on Laurel Lake. Once Joe and Phyllis retired from working, they moved to Knoxville, TN to enjoy the city life after living in small towns for so many years. They have enjoyed traveling the world from Iceland to Singapore and Alaska to Australia. They also enjoy taking walks and playing bridge.
Joe is survived by his wife, sisters Claude and Ginny, brother Paul, 3 children and spouses, 7 grand-children, and 2 great-grandchildren.
Joe was an incredibly loving, generous and fun man who would want everyone to remember that “Life is grand.” Celebration of life ceremony for friends and family planned for May 20. contact family for further details.

In lieu of flowers, the family would prefer donations made to the American Cancer Society to honor his memory.

For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.

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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.

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Our Promise

Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.

Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremations