City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation
Obituary
Eric Jay Farrar
Clayton, North Carolina
Age 55.
Died 10/19/2025.
A warrior with a gentle heart, a father with a soldier’s soul, and a friend to every creature.
There are lives that pass quietly, and then there are lives that move through the world like a steady flame — one ignited by purpose and brightened by love. For many, Eric Jay Farrar was that light. In public and professional settings, he was known as Eric. To those who loved him most, he was simply Jay — loyal, valiant, and always ready to give of himself without hesitation.
Born on October 22, 1969, Jay’s life was defined by service — to his country, his family, his friends, and every living thing that crossed his path. For more than fourteen years, he served in the United States Army and Reserves with unflinching bravery and conviction. Although a decorated soldier, his truest achievements were quieter: a reputation for integrity, a circle of lifelong friends, and a legacy of steadfast kindness that could never be measured only by medals or rank. Jay never met a stranger — only people whose days he brightened with his easy smile and generous spirit.
When his military chapter closed, Jay continued his life of purpose in gentler form, returning to one of his earliest passions — caring for animals. At the North Carolina State Veterinary School, he devoted himself to their well-being with the same discipline and dedication he had given his country. For colleagues and students alike, his presence was grounding and inspiring — a quiet reminder that real strength is found in service.
Jay’s greatest pride was his family. He is survived by his cherished wife, Jevonna (Jon); his beloved children, Jaylen, Savannah and Raleigh; and his faithful dog, Tyson, who rarely left his side. He is also survived by his mother, Vivian Farrar, and father, Ernest Farrar and wife Regina; his brother, Ernest Farrar Jr. and Bridgette; and his sisters, Javette Farrar and Enid Horton and her husband Marvin Diarelll Horton.
He leaves behind a wide and loving community including his in-laws, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews and many friends who became his extended family — each one touched by his laughter, his loyalty, and his steady habit of showing up when others needed him most. To all who knew him, saying goodbye feels nearly impossible, for Jay gave so much of himself to everyone he met. His friendships are enduring and will last eternally.
Jay’s story does not end here. It continues in the laughter of his children, in every act of kindness inspired by his example, and in the quiet courage of those who move forward in his honor. His life reminds us that strength and tenderness are not opposites — they are indeed two halves of the same brave heart.
And though his flame has dimmed from sight, the light he shared still burns in all he touched — guiding, inspiring, and reminding us of the enduring power of a life well-lived and a man deeply loved.
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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.
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Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.
The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.
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Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.
Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.
Our Services
$1196.75
Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.
$2875.66
We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.
$1917.84
City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.
$1596.75
City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation with a private family viewing. A private family viewing allows up to 10 immediate family members or friends to spend time with a loved one when a public visitation is not preferred.
$2497.50
An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.
$6081.48
We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.
$3033.75
This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.
$2640.59
As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.