City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Barbara Anne Tabor Ingram

Raleigh, North Carolina

Age 90.
Died 04/29/2022.

Barbara Anne Tabor Ingram
Barbara Tabor Ingram, 90, of Raleigh, NC, died Friday, April 29, 2022. She was born to Gordon Whitman Tabor and Sadie Steele Tabor in Glenwood Park, Mercer County, West Virginia, on December 20, 1931. After graduating from Beaver High School in Bluefield, WV, she enlisted in the US Air Force, teaching radar class in Biloxi, Mississippi, where she met and married the love of her life, Gilbert S. Ingram. The family settled in Raleigh in 1960, where she stayed busy raising 4 children. Once her youngest children were in high school, she worked as a word processor for DHHS, then the NCSU Veterinary School where her excellent spelling, grammar and editing skills polished abstracts and manuscripts for publication.
She enjoyed reading, gardening, entertaining and travel. During her life, her volunteerism matched her wide variety of interests: serving as an Elder and circle leader at Western Boulevard Presbyterian Church, delivering Meals on Wheels, working the local election day polling site, and once serving as ‘Cookie Mom’ for her daughter’s Girl Scout troop, distributing thousands of boxes of cookies out of her living room. She served as a loving caretaker to her mother and then her husband. When she could no longer physically volunteer her time, she donated to many organizations, her favorite being those involving children, veterans and animals, especially dogs.
She was a proud daughter of West Virginia, a witty story teller, well-read and the Trivial Pursuit winner in the family. In her last years, her greatest joy was seeing photos and videos of her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
She is survived by children: Stan Ingram (Leslie) of Fuquay Varina, NC, Coleen Ross of Greenville, NC, Gail Ingram of Raleigh, NC, Barbara Anderson (David) of Wake Forest, NC, her grandchildren: Ray Brooks (Janet) of Greenville, NC, Katie Cathey (Terry) of Christiana, TN, Matt Williams (Colleen) of Charlotte, NC and Grey Williams (Beth) of Atlanta, GA, by 6 great-grandchildren, and by her sister, Judy Tabor, of Owensboro, KY. Her husband and one sister, Gail Tabor Lucas, predeceased her.
In lieu of flowers: tell your Mom how much you love her, take your dog for a walk, plant a flowering shrub to bring joy and beauty to those who see it, and donate to the Disabled American Veterans at

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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.

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Our Promise

Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.

Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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