City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Carol Ware

Wake Forest, North Carolina

Age 76.
Died 12/02/2022.

Carol Ware
Carol Gray Margaret Adams Ware

August 31, 1946 - December 2, 2022

Carol Gray Margaret Adams Ware, 76, peacefully passed away after a fierce struggle following a heart attack. She was a devoted wife, beloved mother, and adored grandmother and she will be deeply missed by family and friends alike.

Carol was born August 31, 1946, in Rahway, New Jersey to Lt. Col. Alfred Edward Addison Adams, Jr. and Margaret Thomas Adams. She is predeceased by her parents, husband, Hadon Edward Ware, Sr., and brothers, Ed and Bob. She is survived by her 3 children: Cynthia Metcalf (Andrew) of Mt. Kisco, NY, Bonnie Farlow (Steven) of Wake Forest, NC and Hadon Edward Ware, Jr. of Virginia Beach- 6 grandchildren – Madeleine Metcalf, Olivia Bourceau Metcalf, Maximillian Metcalf, Genevieve Metcalf, Grayson Farlow and Hope Farlow - and 1 great grandchild, Alice Bourceau of Bremen, Germany.

She proudly graduated with a BA in Education from Norfolk State and worked as a teacher, entrepreneur, and a caregiver.

Carol embraced the spiritual gift of service her entire life – be it as an esteemed and honored Girl Scout, raising 3 children, becoming a teacher, joining a business that promoted the health of preschoolers, and becoming a loving caretaker in her later years until just a few weeks before her death. “Little blue eyes,” as her father called her, had creativity that permeated every aspect of her life – from stories of the fairies, Teeny and Tiny, devising Christmas crafts for her grandchildren, spending hours needlepointing, knitting, and scrapbooking, inventing fanciful and captivating stories for children, telling witty (and awful) jokes, and wowing friends and family with her spectacular (but tasteful) holiday decorations that filled her home.

As a woman of faith, she was heavily involved in the Catholic church – as a member of St. Anne’s in Charlotte, NC, St. Pius X in Norfolk, Va. and St. Francis of Assisi in Raleigh, NC. She actively supported the Knights of Columbus of St. Francis of Assisi and was a member of the Columbiettes. As a member of the Band of Sisters she supported faith-based community initiatives.

The family would like to extend their deepest thanks to the neighbors who doted on her and helped her unfailingly and the wonderful doctors and nurses at the CTICU at Wake-Med who helped her in her courageous last battle.

On Friday, December 16 at12:30 pm, a Rosary service will be held in the small chapel at St. Francis of Assisi in Raleigh, NC and at 1 pm, a Funeral Mass will be held in the main Church.

In lieu of flowers the family requests that memorial donations be made to the Catholic Parish Outreach food pantry. and the Ronald McDonald House, Durham and Wake

For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.

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Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

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Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.

We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.

State Wide

Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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