City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

John Clinton McIlwee

Raleigh, North Carolina

Age 74.
Died 10/02/2022.

John Clinton McIlwee
On Sunday, October 2, 2022, John Clinton McIlwee, loving and devoted husband and father, passed away after a long illness at the age of 74.
John worked extensively throughout the United States as an actor, director, costume designer, scenic designer, makeup artist and playwright. He had a Masters in Theatre and a Master of Fine Arts in Theatre Design. He was also a national award-winning fashion designer and a two-time winner of the National Arts and Letters Council Award for Children’s playwriting. He was a recipient of the Raleigh Medal of Arts along with numerous other awards. John worked at University Theatre at NC State for 32 years where he served as Director of the theatre for 28 years. John was known for his desire to teach and mentor students in the arts, lecture extensively on the history of couture and costumes, along with his love of the theatre and all the stories from the hundreds of productions he was involved in.
John met the love of his life in Keyser, WV where they were baptized together and were childhood friends, until they realized they were made for each other and got married 53 years ago. He is survived by his wife Nancy, daughter Mary Jane McIlwee Donnelly, grandchildren Paige, Sid and Kane, his brother David and wife Debbie along with their sons Brian, David and Jason, brother Bob and his wife Allison and daughter Kris, brother Ronnie and his wife Judy and daughter Sandy and son Mark, April Chadderton and husband Chip and their two daughters Nicole and Kaylee, and godsons Jackson and Maxx Schladweiler.
There will be no funeral or visitation, but a Celebration of Life will be held in early 2023.
In lieu of flowers, gifts in John’s memory may be made to the NC State University Foundation in support of the John C. McIlwee Theatre Endowment: a fund for greatest needs of the NC State University Theatre program. Contributions can be made online or via checks made payable to the "NCSU Foundation" with McIlwee Theatre Endowment noted on the memo line and mailed c/o:
NC State Gifts and Records Management
Campus Box 7474
Raleigh. NC 27695
Please contact Peyton Stokley, Director of Development with questions: 919- 513-4101

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Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

Genuine Care

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Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.

Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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