City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation

Martha Colman Stuhmer

Raleigh, North Carolina

Age 86.
Died 04/18/2022.

Martha Colman Stuhmer
Martha Colman Wardlaw Stuhmer, age 86, died April 18, after a short stay in hospice care.

Known as “Martha” to many, “Martha Colman” inside the family and by the unique moniker “Colman” -- her middle name – to those to whom she was closest, she was the daughter of John Waller “Jack” and Martha Virginia Wardlaw and sister to John Waller Wardlaw, Jr.

Martha Colman Wardlaw was born in Raleigh, raised a while in Columbia, SC, married in El Paso, Texas, mothered her first born in New Jersey, and moved with her two children from Seattle to Marietta, GA, to raise them there.

She moved back to Raleigh – home – where she kept the books for Wardlaw for Life, the family business and lived the rest of her life.

Social and attentive, she was the connective tissue binding her extended family of brothers and cousins and nieces and nephews from coast to coast and generations past to those headed into the future through the stories and lore she held exactly from her aunts’ and uncles’ 19th century tales. To her grandchildren and great-grandchildren, she linked old Raleigh – she had the accent and dropped her R’s just so -- to the new South boomtown it has become.

She loved the family farm off Trinity Road – Oakhurst Farm, the Medlin place, her mother’s childhood home -- and especially the plants and flowers that she had cut or dug there and given new life in her yard or passed along to her daughter or relations or friends.

She loved all the animals that shared her life, especially her cat Hope and her dog Suzy. Matilda the cat deserves mention for helping to teach her children to respect feline independence and perhaps not walk past too closely.

She loved the Broughton High School Class of 1954, her class, and stayed close with her classmates all along life’s way. She loved to dance, to travel and to do some of both at once. She loved football, especially the Atlanta Falcons and then later Russell Wilson.

And she loved Christ Church and the Daughters of the King, an order of Episcopal women to which she belonged.

Martha Colman is survived by her brother and sister-in-law John and Ellen Wardlaw, her son Robbie Roberts and his wife Angie Clemmons-Roberts, daughter Ruth Roberts Wiley and her husband Bill, six grandchildren, seven great-grandchildren and first cousins, second cousins, nieces and nephews all across the country.

Her memorial service will be held at Christ Church, 120 East Edenton Street, Raleigh, on Tuesday, April 26, at 11 a.m.

For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.

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Apples to Apples

Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.

The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.

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Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.

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Our Services

Direct Cremation


Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.

Cremation with Solidified Remains


We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.

Cremation with Visitation


City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.

Immediate Burial


An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.

Traditional Funeral


We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.

Green Burial


This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.



As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.

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